Comparative: Fear of Loving

If you build a relationship off of a lie (feelings for another person), does that make you a cheater from the get go? In a way, yes it does. You are cheating the person you are trying to be with of your real feelings because they're already taken by someone else. That someone else is being cheated of the love; they aren't getting anything when they're the one that deserves your love. And you are cheating yourself of the chance to love the person that you want to love. This is how you have three way cheating. Nobody is getting what they really want and or deserve because one person can't be honest with oneself and follow what's in their heart.

Now you are wondering, "Why doesn't the person just be with the one they want? Why are they complicating something that is so simple?"

The fear of loving someone can be a toll to cope with. Finding someone who's all you've ever wanted, it seems too good to be true so you let yourself believe it. You deny yourself of feeling what love really is and you settle for second best. Loving someone to me is finding your other half. Being able to show affection to that someone because they make you appreciate them for who they are in every sense of their being. You take all their flaws and mistakes and you love them anyway. Love should come as natural as you two being together. If one is putting in work and the other isn't, there's no point in being with that person. But give credit to those who fight and try to get the love they deserve because they know how it feels to be rejected and they are the ones who are capable of love.

When you take a moment to ponder the thought of not following your heart, it really is immature. When in reality, what you want, you can have. Why would you not want to pursue someone who shares the same affection you have for them? The heart speaks louder than the brain; it is more than likely always a bad thing, but love makes you incompetent. The heart wants what it wants and there's nothing anyone can do about it so just go with it and I guarantee you will love being in bliss.